This letter is for you.

Hey there. This letter is for you.  

 It is ok to be anxious. It’s okay to feel the way you feel. What is not ok…. Is giving up. If you accept that this is normal, then you will get comfortable being depressed or anxious. And that is not okay.

Don't be harsh on yourself. It's okay to have moments of anxiety. Acceptance is the first step. Once you accept that some thing is wrong. You start of on the right path.

Accept, then analyse.
Something is not going okay. Find out what. Understand your emotions, understand the reasons. Learn what is harming you, go to the root of the problem.

Sometimes it is simple, most times it hard to find out what exactly is wrong. Its ok if you cant really fully understand. What matters is that you’re trying.

Once you accept your situation, and once you are in sync with your true feelings and mental space, then you can begin your journey towards betterment.

How can you deal with your anxiety?

See if it is more general or if it is more specific?

Did something trigger this? Is there some toxic person or situation in your life? What caused the start??

Or is something you’re feeling in general, and it’s not too specific.

IF it is more general,
then here is how you can deal with it.

-Affirmations

Keep reaffirming yourself that it's okay. Teach yourself to be kinder to yourself. Tell yourself it's going to be okay. Keep reminding yourself that you're strong.

- Confide

Confide in your family or in a close friend. Don't be ashamed. It's okay. Venting it out (once in a while), will help you. Telling it out verbally will make it less scary. Don't bottle it up. Don't give yourself more reasons to be anxious. Be open and ask for guidance.

- Meditate

Mediate. Sit in silence, focus your energy and disconnect for a while, regularly. If you're a religious person, allocate more time in prayer.

- One fear at a time

See what situations make you more anxious. Learn why that makes you anxious, and see what you can do to over come it. Don't challenge yourself to get over everything at once, it doesn't work that way. Take it one day at a time, one fear at a time, and work a little towards it, that's all.

-Stop saying no

Stop saying no to new things, people, experiences, because it makes you anxious. It might be hard, but stop trying to isolate yourself. That only makes things harder. Try to reduce saying no.

-Create a happy place

When in the middle of a stressful situation, you feel your anxiety creeping up, make a mental space for yourself to disappear off for a while. it could be a memory, or a prayer. Whatever it is, disconnect from the situation for a bit, calm yourself, and then get back to dealing with it.

-Know your boundaries

Test your boundaries, but dont push them. Don't expect 2 days of meditation to fix years of built up tension and stress. Know your boundaries. Understand what can trigger you, and handle it with care. Don't assume that this process is over night. You're not going to loose your anxiety or master it overnight. It is a process and required time and effort. 

-Take care of yourself and dont judge yourself

Understand that this is not something you want to have, but it is something that is a part of you. Don't hate that part. Just work on it, that's all. We tend be our worst enemy. So stop being rude toward yourself. That's not good at all. You wouldnt go hurt someone else when they're stressed and anxious, so don't go around hurting yourself with words or actions for being anxious. It doesn't make you weird, it makes you human.

-Dont get comfortable being down

Be kind to yourself, but that doesn't mean that you become comfortable being depressed or anxious. The more you give in, the more your anxiety will take over. So keep fighting.

-Talk to yourself

Be in sync with what is going on in your life. Don't deny certain things to your own self. Have honest conversations with yourself.

Some behavioural aspects that you can change to help you cope with anxiety: 

-Workout.
-Reduce caffeine.
-Chew gum.
-Count to 20 before you decide or speak.
-Eat healthy. 

-Take up a energy venting activity like running, or boxing etc.
-Have a squeeze toy.
-Keep a journal. Track your progress.
- Consult a professional. 

If you have a problem, there are a million ways to fix it. So don't focus on the problem, focus on how you can handle the situation instead.
There are many anxiety aids but the biggest thing that can help you - is yourself. So work on yourself, and you'll slowly but surely see the change. 

/Regards and love, 
Your friend.